Guide for Victims of Sexual Assault
in Graham County, NC

Graham COUNTY RESOURCE LIST

In an EMERGENCY dial 911

Hope For Families Sexual Assault-DV Program 479-4332
Graham County Sheriff's Office 479-3352
District Attorney's Office 488-8723
Clerk of Court Office 479-7973
Magistrate's Office 479-3897
Probation and Parole 479-3538
Swain County Hospital 488-2155
Tallulah Health Center 479-6434
Graham County Health Department 479-7900
Department of Social Services 479-7911
WNC Legal Services 586-8931
Smoky Mountain Counseling Center 1-800-849-6127
Rape Victim Assistance Program 1-800-826-6200
Victims Compensation Program 1-800-826-6200
SAVAN 1-800-NC-SAVAN
HIV/AIDS-STD Hotline 1-800-342-2437
HIV/AIDS-STD Hotline (Spanish) 1-800-344-7432
National Sexual Assault Hotline 1-800-656-HOPE
Emergency Escape | Salida de Emergencia National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE
Teen Crisis Hotline 1-800-367-7287
30th Judicial District DV-SA Alliance www.30thalliance.org
North Carolina Coalition Against Sexual Assault www.nccasa.org
North Carolina Coalition Against Domestic Violence www.nccadv.org
Rape Abuse &Incest National Network www.rainn.org

Introduction

A crime may have been committed against you, a member of your family or someone you know. This online book is designed to educate the reader about the laws and criminal court procedures relating to sexual assault and domestic violence. It also reviews some of the supportive services available for victims in the 30th Judicial District. Many different agencies and individuals may become involved with a sexual assault or domestic violence case, we set out here the process and procedures that the various agencies involved might have.

Not all questions will be answered in this guide; however, the resource list provides programs that are available to help with any questions that the book cannot answer. These are organizations that work to help victims through the emotional, medical, and legal decisions involved in dealing with the crime committed against them. They will not tell a victim what to do. Instead, they will offer support to victims and their families during this process that should help develop hope, healing and recovery.

Any victim of sexual violence in the 30th North Carolina Judicial District (Haywood, Jackson, Macon, Swain, Graham, Clay and Cherokee Counties) should be treated with respect and dignity, regardless of gender, cultural background, age, sexual orientation, income, cognitive abilities, physical abilities, or sexual, medical or mental health history.

Sexual violence or domestic violence are wrong and no one deserves to be, or asks to be, a victim of such violence. No victim is responsible for the violence committed against him or her.

We choose to use the word "victim" in this guide rather than "survivor" because victims of sexual offenses should not be stigmatized by their experience any more than victims of other crimes. The term "victim" includes the parents of minor children who have been sexually assaulted as well as the legal guardians of others who have been assaulted.

VICTIM'S RIGHTS

Emergency Escape | Salida de EmergenciaUnder the North Carolina Constitution and our state laws, victims of serious crimes are assured of certain rights. "Serious Crimes" are felonies or serious misdemeanors involving domestic violence. These can include crimes committed by juveniles. You have the following rights as a victim of a serious crime in North Carolina:

1. The right to be notified of court proceedings.
2. The right to be present at all public court proceedings related to the case, unless the court determines that testimony by the victim would be materially affected if the victim heard other testimony at trial.
3. The right to confer with the assigned district attorney.
4. The right to restitution.
5. The right to information about the conviction, sentencing, imprisonment, and release of the offender.
6. The right to know the availability of services to victims.
7. The right to receive information about the crime, the process, and availability of services.
8. The right to information about available protection from harm or threats of harm arising out of prosecuting or cooperating with law enforcement.
9. The right to have a Victim Impact Statement prepared and presented to the judge for consideration at sentencing.
10. The right to be informed about plea bargaining procedures, and whether the prosecutor will recommend a plea agreement.
11. The right to let the District Attorney's Office know that you object to revealing your home address during the trial of the perpetrator and ask the prosecutor to object if he or she can do so.
12. The right to have support of a friend, spouse, or crisis counselor during all court proceedings.
13. The right to privacy. You do not have to talk to the defendant's attorney, or anyone else involved in the defense.
14. The right to be notified of parole, commutation or pardons.
15. Present views and concerns to the Governor or agency considering any action that should result in the release of the accused prior to such action becoming effective.
16. To ask for contact with the victim's employer to seek the employer's cooperation with the criminal justice system to minimize the victim's loss of wages.
17. That family members be offered all the victims' rights guarantees.
18. The right to request AIDS & STD testing of assailant upon DA filing a motion and the Judge entering an order to that effect.

Emergency Escape | Salida de EmergenciaVICTIM'S COMPENSATION

The state of North Carolina has a program to reimburse citizens who suffer medical expenses and lost wages as a result of being an innocent victim of a crime committed in North Carolina.

WHO IS A VICTIM?

A victim is a person who suffers injury or death proximately caused by criminally injurious conduct, that:

  • by its nature, poses a serious threat of personal injury or death
  • is punishable by a fine or imprisonment or death
  • does not result from a violation of the motor vehicle laws, except in conduct related to Driving While Impaired and Hit and Run.

Victims also include:

  • dependent of a deceased innocent victim; or
  • a legal representative of an innocent victim

WHAT DOES IT COVER?

  • medical expenses
  • lost wages
  • replacement services such as child care.

A maximum of $30,000 may be paid for any award. When the victim dies as a result of the crime in that case, an additional $3,500 may be paid to the survivors for funeral expenses.

WHO IS ELIGIBLE?

To be eligible a victim:

  • must report the crime to law enforcement within 72 hours of the crime.
  • must file within one year of the date of the crime.

WHO IS NOT ELIGIBLE?

Emergency Escape | Salida de EmergenciaA victim:

  • who has insurance that pays the maximum amount authorized by Victims Compensation
  • who does not incur economic loss within one year, except victims under the age of 10 at the time of injury, who may be compensated for economic loss incurred up to two years after the crime.
  • who contributes to the criminal conduct
  • who is the offender or an accomplice
  • who does not cooperate with the Crime Victims Compensation Commission and Staff
  • whose award would benefit the offender or their accomplice (except when interests of justice require)
  • who was confined in a correctional facility when the crime occurred
  • who was in the commission of a crime at the time of the incident.

WHAT MAY NOT BE PAID?

Compensation will not be paid for:

  • loss of personal property
  • any expense paid by insurance or other sources
  • for pain and suffering,
  • injury or loss that is the result of a violation of motor vehicle laws other than Driving While Impaired.

How do I apply?

  • Local Law Enforcement agencies
  • Rape Crisis Center
  • Victim/Witness Coordinator in the DA's Office
  • Victim's Compensation 1-800-826-6200 or (919)733-7974
  • The Crime Victims Compensation Commission is the governing body with the authority to award or deny reimbursement claims. The Division of Victim and Justice Services administers the program.

INVESTIGATION OF A CLAIM

Every claim filed with the Commission will be investigated to determine that:

  • a crime was committed that resulted in physical injury or death;
  • the victim did not contribute to their injuries or sustain the injuries while engaged in an illegal activity;
  • the crime was reported to law enforcement within 72 hours unless good cause is shown; and
  • the victim (or the victim's legal representative) cooperated with all law enforcement agencies and the Victims Compensation Staff; and
  • the victim was not committing any crime at the time of the incident.

What is response time for payment?Emergency Escape | Salida de Emergencia

Process time may take several months.

RAPE

Rape is an act of power and control, in which the victim is humiliated, degraded, and left with feelings of shame, guilt and anger. If you are forced against your will to have sex with someone, that is rape. NC General Statute 14-27 defines rape and sexual assault as the following:

First Degree Rape - a person is guilty of rape in the first degree if the person engages in vaginal intercourse:

1. With a victim who is a child under the age 13 years and the defendant is at least 12 years old and is at least 4 years older than the victim;

2. With another person by force and against the will of the other person and; employs a dangerous or deadly weapon or an article which the other person reasonably believes to be a dangerous or deadly weapon; or inflicts serious personal injury upon the victim or another, by one or more other persons.

Second Degree Rape - a person is guilty of rape in the second degree if the person engages in vaginal intercourse with another person:

1. By force and against the will of the other person; or

2. Who is mentally defective, mentally incapacitated, or physically helpless, and the person performing the act knows or should reasonably know the other person is mentally, or physically helpless.

First Degree Sexual Assault - a person is guilty of a sexual offense in the first degree if the person engages in a sexual act:

1. With a victim who is a child under the age of 13 years and the defendant is at least 12 years old and is at least 4 years older than the victim.

2. With another person by force and against the will of the other person, and: (a) employs a dangerous or deadly weapon or an article which the other person reasonably believes to be a dangerous or deadly weapon, or (b) inflicts serious personal injury upon the victim or another, by one or more other persons, or (c) the person commits the offense aided and abetted by one or more other persons.

Second Degree Sexual Assault - a person is guilty of a sexual offense in the second degree if the person engages in a sexual act:

1. By force and against the will of the other person, or;

2. Who is mentally defective, mentally incapacitated, or physically helpless, and the person performing the act knows or should reasonably know the other person is mentally, or physically helpless.

Emergency Escape | Salida de EmergenciaSTATUTORY RAPE

Statutory Rape is a crime in which a minor is manipulated to engage in intercourse with someone older. Many victims do not understand this is a crime because statutory rape considers age difference and not the consent of the individuals.

NC General Statute 14-27 defines statutory rape as:

Statutory Rape - a person is guilty of statutory rape if the person engages in vaginal intercourse or a sexual act with another person:

1. Who is 13, 14, or 15 years old and the defendant is at least six years older than the person except when the defendant is lawfully married to the person.

2. Who is 13, 14, or 15 years old and the defendant is more than four but less than six years older than the person except when the defendant is lawfully married to the person.

Steps in Reporting Statutory Rape

1. Contact your local Department of Social Services (DSS), Child Protective Services Division. DSS will conduct an investigation to determine if the child is safe and if not, determine how the child can be better protected.

2. Case is forwarded to the District Attorney's Office and Law Enforcement. Law Enforcement investigates to determine if there is enough information to obtain a warrant.

3. Child's consent to sexual contact does not eliminate the crime. The lack of consent is not the crime; the age difference of the perpetrator is the crime.

REPORTING A RAPE

Reporting a rape allows a victim to have a voice. Reporting is doing something about the crime that was committed. Reporting can be done two different ways:

1. Reporting to Law Enforcement: This informs law enforcement that a rape has occurred. Law Enforcement will investigate the assault; however, the victim can sign a waiver stating that they do not want to prosecute this crime.

2. Reporting to Law Enforcement with a request to prosecute: Law enforcement will investigate the assault. They will work closely with you, the district attorney's office and other appropriate agencies, to identify, arrest, and prosecute the person(s) responsible for committing the assault.

Emergency Escape | Salida de EmergenciaHOSPITAL PROCESS

It is very important that victims of sexual assault receive medical treatment. Medical treatment is essential to victims' physical and emotional well-being. There may be internal injuries, venereal disease, or pregnancy to consider after a rape. Evidence of the rape must be collected by a trained health professional. Although a rape victim may not want to prosecute at the time of the assault, it is possible for the victim to change her mind later. The collected evidence will be important to the prosecution.

What are the hospital procedures?

  • After being assaulted, you may call ahead to the hospital and let them know you are coming -- but it is not required. Priority is to get medical help.
  • You should not bathe, change clothes, urinate, brush teeth, eat or drink. This can eliminate important evidence, if a prosecution occurs.
  • The Emergency Department can call the local Domestic Violence-Sexual Assault program and request that an Advocate come to the hospital.
  • You may bring a change of clothes to the Emergency Department because clothes worn during the assault may be taken as evidence. If you do not have a change of clothes, the Advocate may be able to provide them.
  • You will be escorted to a private room.
  • You will be asked to sign consent forms. These forms give permission for the pelvic exam, release of information to law enforcement.
  • A doctor or a Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner (SANE) will perform the physical exam and use the SBI Rape Kit.
  • The medical personnel will take a brief medical history from the victim.
  • During the SBI Rape Kit, the examiner will check for bruises and other marks that might be a result from the attack. The examiner will collect samples for the presence of sperm and other fluids and various hair samples from the victim.
  • The examiner will also check for pregnancy. If the assault occurred within 72 hours, optional medication may be discussed to prevent pregnancy.
  • Victims will be informed about optional medications to treat sexually transmitted diseases.
  • Follow-up resources will be discussed before discharge from the hospital.

COURT PROCEEDINGS

Court can be a very scary situation. Many victims do not prosecute rapists because of their fear of court. Better understanding of the court procedures helps victims decide if prosecution is appropriate. This information also helps the victim feel more in control while in the courtroom.

AFTER LAW ENFORCEMENT CHARGES THE PERPETRATOR, YOU WILL:

  • Meet with the District Attorney (DA)Emergency Escape | Salida de Emergencia
  • The DA is a lawyer who prosecutes criminal matters for the State. He or she will be your lawyer.
  • The DA will hear the facts to determine what charge will go to court, if any.
  • You may ask for a support person to be there with you. This may include a family member, friend, or the Victim Advocate.
  • The law enforcement investigator can be present during this meeting.

Warrant Issued:

  • An arrest order stating the crime that the person to be arrested is accused of committing.
  • Investigating officer gives sworn statement of facts.


AFTER THE ACCUSED IS ARRESTED:

First Court Appearance:
YOU ARE NOT REQUIRED TO BE PRESENT.

  • Within 96 hours of arrest
  • Brief hearing where judge informs defendant of:

1. His/her constitutional rights
2. Charges against him/her
3. Bail amount required before release
4. Right to an attorney

  • DA sets hearing to determine "probable cause."

Probable Cause Hearing:
YOU MAY BE REQUIRED TO BE PRESENT AND TESTIFY.

  • Usually 3 weeks after the arrest.
  • The Victim/Witness Assistant will provide the date and time of the hearing and preparation for court, if needed.
  • The defendant will be present during the hearing.
  • DA will try to avoid victim testimony, however, in some cases, this testimony is crucial to proceed in the case.
  • DA must present enough evidence for the judge to allow the case to proceed to trial.
  • If the judge finds "probable cause" exists, the case is sent to Superior Court for trial there.
  • The defendant's attorney can waive the probable cause hearing and the matter will go automatically forward to the grand jury for indictment.

Emergency Escape | Salida de EmergenciaGrand Jury:
YOU ARE NOT REQUIRED TO BE PRESENT.

  • This is a jury of people from the community that meets privately and considers evidence of possible crimes presented to them by law enforcement.
  • If the grand jury believes the defendant could have committed the crime, it returns a "True Bill of Indictment."
  • The indictment is referred to Superior Court.

Arraignment:
YOU ARE NOT REQUIRED TO BE PRESENT, UNLESS THERE IS A PLEA BARGAIN.

  • A superior court judge reads the charges to the accused.
  • Accused enters his/her plea of guilty or not guilty.
  • If the accused pleads not guilty, a trial date will be set.
  • If the accused pleads guilty or enters into a plea bargain, the judge will schedule a sentencing hearing or may proceed directly to sentencing.

Trial:
YOU ARE REQUIRED TO BE PRESENT AND TESTIFY.

  • A jury consists of 12 members and one alternate.
  • The defendant is present during the entire trial.
  • Both sides present evidence.
  • Jury will deliberate after hearing all evidence.
  • Jury will return a verdict of guilty or not guilty.
  • Jury decision must be unanimous (all must agree).

Sentencing Hearing:
YOU ARE REQUIRED TO BE PRESENT.

  • Jury has been dismissed.
  • Judge determines the punishment for the crime.
Note: The defendant has 3 opportunities to plead guilty before a trial date is set.

TIPS FOR RAPE VICTIMS

  • Tell someone about the rape. It is an embarrassing and humiliating crime to discuss; however, talking can be a step towards rebuilding trust within yourself and in others.
  • Medical attention is very important for two reasons: your health and evidence collection.
  • Talk to a counselor. A counselor can help you understand the confusing feelings you might be having from one moment to another. They are there to listen and help you decide the best way for you to deal with the rape. You do not have to face the crisis and healing alone.
  • Trust your instincts. If you feel unsafe with someone or the environment trust yourself and your feelings and leave that person and/or those surroundings.
  • To assist family and friends in understanding your feelings and experiences, refer them to the Domestic Violence-Sexual Assault Program. They have helpful information for both you and your family.
  • Recovery is an individual process and can be slow; begin to heal at your own pace and take the time you need to regain control of your own life.
  • Start a journal to provide an outlet for your thoughts and feelings. A journal can help you express yourself when it is difficult to verbally communicate your emotions.
  • Contact SAVAN and register for victim notification and information via telephone on any status change of the rapist while in custody (such as release from jail).
  • Join a support group to find support from others going through the tragedyEmergency Escape | Salida de Emergencia of rape.
  • Write a letter to the rapist. It is a way of letting out your anger towards the rapist. This letter does not have to be sent. Some victims hold on to the letter and burn it as a symbol of releasing the anger.
  • If the rape occurred at your home, rearrange the room where the rape occurred to decrease the memories associated with the rape.
  • Understand that nightmares and certain triggers that replay the feelings of the event are common; you are not going crazy. Find someone to talk to and help you identify your triggers. Identifying them can decrease triggers and nightmares during your recovery.

RAPE VICTIM ASSISTANCE PROGRAM - RVAP

The General Assembly authorized funds in 1981 for a program to provide financial assistance for victims of rape, attempted rape, sexual assault or attempted sexual assault who report the crime within 72 hours to the proper law enforcement officials. The program is administered by the Division of Victim and Justice Services and will provide up to $1,000 for immediate and short term medical and hospital expenses, including mental health and ambulance services in the treatment of a victim of a rape or sexual offense.

Bills are to be filed by the hospital and payments are made directly to the attending hospital or physician. The program also will coordinate benefits with any applicable insurance plan or program.

Ask the emergency room staff or business office about coverage under the Rape Victim Assistance Program. If you have questions or wish additional information, please write or call:
Rape Victim Assistance Program
Division of Victim and Justice Services
P.O. Box 29588
Raleigh, NC 27626-0588
(919) 733-7974 or 1-800-826-6200

STALKING

Stalking is the willful, malicious, and repeated following and harassing of another Emergency Escape | Salida de Emergenciaperson. Stalking is an action that serves no legitimate purpose and is intended to harass, annoy, or terrorize the victim. Stalking tends to leave the victim in fear of his/her normal surroundings. Victims of stalking often feel threatened and afraid of the stalker.

Typical Stalking Activities:

  • Following or constant driving by home, work, school, or any place regularly visited
  • Repeated phone calls
  • Threats
  • Letters or gifts by mail
  • Vandalism of property
  • Unwanted physical encounters

North Carolina Law:

NC General Statute 14-277.3 defines stalking as:

A person commits the offense of stalking if the person willfully, on more than one occasion, follows or is in the presence of another person without legal purposes and (1) with the intent to cause death or bodily injury; or (2) with the intent to cause emotional distress by placing that person in reasonable fear of death or bodily injury.

DOCUMENTATION OF STALKING BEHAVIOR

1. Notify the local law enforcement and the magistrate's office. All incidents should be reported to the police. Request a copy of the report or the incident report number. Give law enforcement any written correspondence from the stalker. Make sure you know the name of the officer involved with each incident.
2. Keep a diary. It will be very helpful to record dates, times, and witnesses of all stalking incidents. Obtain names and addresses of witnesses. Write a description of each incident, what took place, and what was said.
3. Record telephone conversations. Tell the stalker to stop calling and hang up. Write down the time and date the stalker called.
4. Take pictures of the stalker if it can be done safely. Write time, date, and place on the back of the picture.
5. Keep all correspondence you receive from the stalker and make a copy of any correspondence you send to the stalker. Touch the mail as little as possible to preserve fingerprints.
Emergency Escape | Salida de Emergencia6. Tell Everyone. Give friends, co-workers, and neighbors, a picture or description of the stalker. Ask them to watch for the stalker and document any time they see him or her. Ask them to document any of the stalker's behaviors that they witness.
7. Write down the license plate number and a description of the vehicle.
8. Do not leave mail in your mailbox. Someone could read your mail and find out a lot about you. For example: where your extended family lives, when and where your next doctor's appointment is, etc.

IMPORTANT SAFETY MEASURES FOR VICTIMS OF STALKING

1. Be alert and aware of your surrounding and what is happening around you.
2. Vary routes of travel. Change the way you go to work, home, and even the grocery store.
3. Park in secure and well-lit areas. Ask someone you know and/or feel safe with to escort you to your car.
4. Be aware of vehicles following you. If you find that someone is following you, drive to a police station, fire department, busy shopping center, and sound the horn to attract attention.
5. Alert work-site security and/or managers to the situation. Provide them with a picture or a description of the stalker.
6. Have law enforcement conduct a security check of your home to ensure that your house can be locked up safely.
7. Secure all doors and windows of your vehicle and your home.
8. Maintain an unlisted phone number. Obtain a Caller ID and/or answering machine.
9. Treat any verbal or written threat as legitimate. Call the police or sheriff's office and make sure you hold onto all documentation.
10. Do not give out personal information to a store clerk or anyone else where the information can be overheard. Do not have your phone number on your checks and try to remove your social security number from as many items as possible.
11. Develop a safety plan for yourself and family members in case of emergency. Decide on a safe place to meet and someone to call if a problem does arise. Keep the safety plan in a safe place and revise it anytime your situation changes.
12. Put out the garbage the day it is collected. Garbage can tell people many things about us, for example: where we bank, credit card numbers, social security Emergency Escape | Salida de Emergenciainformation, and where you shop, etc.

CIVIL NO-CONTACT ORDER

As of December 1, 2004 North Carolina General Statute 50C is effective. This law is an act to establish civil no-contact orders for the protection of individuals who are victims of unlawful conduct. Unlawful conduct can include but is not limited to the following definitions: (1) Abuse. - To physically or mentally harm, harass, intimidate, or interfere with the personal liberty of another. (2) Stalking. - To follow on more than one occasion or otherwise harass without legal purpose with the intent to place that person in substantial emotional distress or cause the person reasonable fear for their safety or the safety of the person's immediate family or close personal associates. (3) Sexual conduct. - Any intentional touching, fondling, or sexual penetration by a person either directly or through clothing for the purpose of sexual gratification or arousal. The civil no-contact order also known as a "50C" usually states that the person charged with unlawful conduct can not go near the victim or harass the victim. If the offender violates the civil no-contact order, it is a misdemeanor criminal offense and the offender can be arrested.

The Civil No-Contact Order Process:

  • The Clerk of Court Office has the forms. There is no charge and victims can fill out the forms themselves. If you desire assistance with filling out the forms and understanding the civil no-contact order process you can call the local Domestic Violence - Sexual Assault Program listed in the resource section of this .
  • With a judge's signature a temporary "Ex Parte" civil no-contact order may be issued. This temporary order by the Court provides protection until a hearing date can be set.
  • At the Court hearing a judge will hear from both the victim and the accused offender. As victim it may be necessary to explain to the Court your reasons for needing protection.
  • If a civil no-contact order is found to be needed by a judge, the order can continue for one year and may be renewed from year to year.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

  • Domestic Violence is not a family secret, it is a crime.
  • Domestic Violence is the use of power and control by one person over another in an intimate relationship.
  • Domestic violence can lead to serious injury or death.

Types of Domestic Violence:

  • Physical - pushing, shoving, or choking.
  • Emotional - insults, isolation, or threats.
  • Sexual - rape and sexual assault.

Emergency Escape | Salida de EmergenciaIf Law Enforcement is called out on a domestic violence call:

  • They will assess the evidence of violence and determine the aggressor.
  • If violence is found, they may arrest the abuser. The police do not need the victim's permission to press charges. This action is taken so that the victim does not have to make the decision to press charges.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SAFETY TIPS

While Still In The Home:

  • Tell someone about the domestic violence. It is an uncomfortable situation. You need someone to understand the danger that you live with daily. Tell someone who can help you get to a safe place.
  • Take and date pictures of all bruises or wounds and keep them in a safe place, or contact your local domestic violence program to take the pictures for you.
  • Have an "emergency bag" prepared in case you need to leave in a hurry. Leave it in a safe place away from the abuser where you can access it.
  • Call your local domestic violence program. They can help you develop a safety plan to use when the abuse starts.
  • Pay attention to names of abuser's friends, their cars' descriptions, and locations they frequent.
  • Teach your children how to get help and how to call 911.
  • Record the abuser's employer information.
  • Do not use your home computer to access information about domestic violence, or about services or supports. Use a friend's or a public computer.

Emergency Escape | Salida de EmergenciaITEMS TO PUT IN YOUR EMERGENCY BAG:

  • Driver's License and/or other forms of identification
  • Social Security Numbers, for entire family
  • Birth Certificate-yours and your children's
  • Identification Cards, EBT Cards
  • Immigration papers
  • Insurance policies, both health and car
  • Title to car and deed to house, if possible
  • School records of your children
  • Medical records, such as shot records
  • Medications that are needed daily
  • Favorite toys
  • Money, Bank Cards, and Checkbooks. Do not use a checkbook if return checks are mailed to abuser's home.
  • Credit Cards, if they are in your name
  • Change of clothes for yourself and your children
  • Toothbrush and deodorant
  • Keys-house and car
  • Address book, photos, diary, and jewelry

After You or the Abuser Leaves The Home:

  • Keep in contact with the domestic violence program. The domestic violence program can help you develop a safety plan for you and your children.
  • Tell your employer. Develop a safety plan for your workplace.
  • Contact SAVAN and register for victim notification, if the abuser is in custody.
  • If you get an Order of Protection, keep it with you at all times.
  • Change window and door locks. Use timers on your lights and radio. Change the timer often so that your schedule is not predictable.
  • Keep your cell phone nearby at all times. Program emergency numbers.
  • Use different routes or change your schedule when going to work or school.
  • Notify local post office, phone company, utilities, banks and creditors and ask them to place a notation on your accounts restricting address inquiries.
  • Have your telephone number unlisted and screen all calls via Caller ID or answering machine.
  • Consider renting a Post Office box for your mail.
  • If you have children, consider using the Supervised Visitation-Exchange Program for safe visitation exchanges or supervised visits.
  • Consider getting a dog that can help protect you and your home.
  • Use different stores to shop for groceries and regular supplies.
  • Keep all family pets and children's toys out of sight from the road. If the abuser finds a general location, recognizing the family pet or child's toy will easily lead him to your new home.
  • Take all bumper stickers or identifying items off your car (it will be harder for the abuser to spot you on the road.)
  • Document and report in a journal all instances when the abuser contacts you. Be as detailed as possible.
  • Get a new social security number at the Social Security Administration.
  • Consider changing your name, if necessary.
  • Call the police or sheriff's office.
  • Stay safe, stay healthy, stay alive.

Emergency Escape | Salida de EmergenciaDOMESTIC VIOLENCE PROTECTIVE ORDER (DVPO)

Domestic Violence Protective Order (DVPO) is a civil order that is designed to protect domestic violence victims and their children from the abuser. A DVPO is also known as a "50B". The order usually states that the person charged with assault or threat of assault can not go near the victim or harass the victim. If the abuser violates the DVPO, it is a misdemeanor criminal offense and the abuser can be arrested.

The Protective Order Process:

  • The Clerk of Court Office has the forms. There is no charge and victims can fill out the forms themselves. If you desire assistance with filling out the forms and understanding the DVPO process you can call the local Domestic Violence Program listed in the resource section of this book.
  • The DVPO compliant and motion will be reviewed by a judge either in their chambers or in a courtroom.
  • With a judge's signature a temporary DVPO also called an "Ex Parte" is issued. This temporary DVPO is an order by the Court that provides protection until a hearing date can be set. The abuser has no say in this matter; they will be heard at the hearing.
  • At the DVPO hearing a judge will hear from both the victim and the accused abuser. As victim it may be necessary to explain to the Court your reasons for needing protection.
  • If a DVPO is found to be needed by a judge, the order can continue for one year and may be renewed from year to year.

Special Thanks to the Governor's Crime Commission for funding this project through grant number 044-1-03-1VA-AW-706, an Office of Justice Programs Violence Against Women Act grant.

The Alliance expresses its appreciation to the members of the Domestic Violence-Sexual Assault Response Teams (DV-SART) throughout the 30th Judicial District.

    Emergency Escape | Salida de Emergencia Sybil Mann
    Executive Director
    30th Judicial District
    Domestic Violence-Sexual Assault Alliance, Inc.

    Hal Breakey, Ph.D.
    Project Director
    30th Judicial District
    Domestic Violence-Sexual Assault Alliance, Inc.
30th Judicial District Alliance
323 Hazelwood Avenue
PO Box 554
Waynesville, NC 28786
828-452-2122
828-452-1022 Fax